Friday, November 26, 2010

Parshas Vayeishev / Pre Chanuka

Liyluy Nishmas Elchonon Tzvi ben R' Yisroel Menachem, Zev Yehuda ben R' Shmuel Mordechai, R' Baruch Moshe Aryeh ben R' Zev Yehuda, Avraham ben R' Yitzchak Zev, R' Dovid Meir ben Harav Shmuel
     In Meseches Shabbos the Gemora discusses what we are celebrating when we celebrate the Yom Tov of Chanuka, the Braisa says what we as children were always taught.  The Yivanim entered the heichal and were mitame all the oil, when the Chashmanaim defeated the Yivanim, they searched and were only able to find one pach shemen that was still sealed with the seal of the Kohen Gadol.  The oil that they found was just enough for one night, but a miracle happened and it lasted eight days.  The next year this time was set as a Yom Tov to give shevach v'hoda'ah to hashem Yisborach.  Reb Chaim Shmulevitz ztl points out, ( I've seen it in his sefer and also heard it from my Uncle Shmuel last Chanuka) that if we look at the broader picture of what happened in the times of the Chashmonaim this miracle of the oil seems to be rather small and insignificant.  Klal Yisroel was the recipient of tremendous persecution, as is written in "Al Hanisim", "Ki'sheamda malchus yavan harasha al amcha Yisroel l' hashgicham Torasecha u'lihaviram meichukei ritzonecha."  The Yivanim came together to get rid of Torah and Yidishkeit but Hashem created miracles and "masarta giborim b'yad chalashim vrabim b'yad mi"atim" the strong were placed into the hands of the weak, and the many into the hands of the few.  "u'liamcha Yisroel asisa teshuah gedola u"fourkan ki'hayom haze."  Hashem saved Klal Yisroel from what would have been a terrible fate.  If you would ask me the pach shemen miracle is very great but it seems sort of small going up against the miracle of saving Torah and allowing it to be continually passed down.  When Yosef was going down to Mitzrayim the Torah tells us that the Yismaeli merchants were carrying pleasant smelling spices as appose to the bad smelling things they normally carried.  Chazal say that we see from here what Hashem does for Tzadikim.  Normally the caravans smelled bad but Hashem made sure it smelled good for Yosef.  Reb Chaim asks, Yosef was forcefully thrown out of his home he had lived in his whole life, he is being brought down to be sold as a slave, he is being brought down from Yaakov's house to the lowest place in the world, putting it simply, right now his life stinks.  Oh but don't worry Yosef your caravan that is delivering you to your new life smells good!  What does it matter his whole life was being turned inside out.  Reb Chaim explains, Yosef's life was falling apart, he was in a situation where he most probably felt very much alone.  His brother's hated him and had sold him, his father thought he was dead, it could seem to him that possibly even Hashem had left him.  At a time when Yosef was so down Hashem came and used the change of a good smelling caravan to show Yosef that yes things may be tough, yes life is hard but I didn't forget you, I'm here holding your hand going down to Mitzrayim with you.  It wasn't just about the smell, it was about reminding Yosef how much Hashem loved him and that he was still there with him.  The same was true by the nes of Chanuka.  The miracle of the pach hashemen was Hashem's way of showing Klal Yisroel how much he loves us on a much more personal level.  True winning the war was tremendous but that is part of "hechreichiyus' in a persons mind.  Almost like that is what is supposed to happen because how could Torah be lost.  However, the oil burning was just something that opened their eyes and showed them, Hashem was there with them.  That is why the pach shemen was considered the reason why we celebrate Chanuka, and that is why Hashem made the caravan smell good.  Remembering that Hashem is with us holding our hands thoughout our lives and in every situation, can help us get through even the hardest times. Good Shabbos

Friday, November 19, 2010

Parshas Vayishlach

Liyluy Nishmas Elchonon Tzvi ben R' Yisroel Menachem, Zev Yehuda ben R' Shmuel Mordechai, R' Baruch Moshe Aryeh ben R' Zev Yehuda, Avraham ben R' Yitzcha Zev, R' Dovid Meir ben Harav Shmuel....
     In perek lamud hei posuk chaf beis the posuk says "Vayihi bishkon Yisrael ba'aretz hahi vayeilech Reuven vayishkav es Bilha pilegesh aviv vayishma Yisrael."  "And it came to pass While Yisrael dwelt in the land, Reuven went and lay with Bilha his fathers concubine, and Yisrael heard."  Rachel passed away and Yaakov moved his bed into Bilha's tent.  Reuven feeling that Yaakov's bed should have been put in his mothers tent went and moved it.  The Torah considered the aveira so wrong that he is considered as if he lay with his father's concubine.  The Ramban says on this incident that it shows the "anava", humility, of yaakov avinu.  He heard about what Reuven did and did not command him to leave his house and kick him out of the family and the shvatim.  Rather he counted him as one of the shvatim, and counted him as the first one as the shvatim, his true spot. 
      The Torah is complimenting Yaakov on his great humility for not kicking Reuven out of his house.  Its obvious that the Torah is not praising Yaakov for not having a wrong amount of "gaivah" because it is no "chidush" that Yaakov did not attain a level of "gaivah" that would be totally incorrect.  Rather the Torah must be praising Yaakov for being totally void of "gaivah" and on a tremendous level of "anava", and is saying that without this he would have thrown Reuven out.
       The Rosh Yeshiva ztl asks, "mima nafshach", if the right thing was for Yaakov to throw Reuven out then why is he praised for not throwing him out, and if the right thing to do was not throw him out, then why such praise for doing what he was supposed to?  The Rosh yeshiva explains that the right thing to do was what Yaakov actually did do, however even a drop of "gaivah" would have changed his decision and caused him to believe that the right thing to do was to throw him out.  The fact that he was on that level deserves recognition.  The Rosh Yeshiva explains that there is still a question begging to be asked.  Lets say Yaakov wasn't a full fledged "anav", and maybe he had a little bit of a negia to want to throw Reuven out, but we know the draw that Yaakov had to the truth "Titein emes l"Yaakov", shouldn't his desire for the truth overcome everything else?  He explains that obviously from the Ramban we see that even with his tremendous draw toward "emes", just a drop of "gaivah" would have skewed his decision.  We see from here the extremely negative effect that even a tiny dose of gaiva has on a person.  We should be zoche to work on our gaiva and be able to make the right decisions in everything in our lives. Good Shabbos

Friday, November 12, 2010

Parshas Vayeitzei

Liyluy Nishmas Elchonon Tzvi ben R' Yisroel Menachem, Zev Yehuda ben R' Shmuel Mordechai, R' Baruch Moshe Aryeh ben R' Zev Yehuda, Avraham ben R' Yitzchak Zev, R' Dovid Meir ben R' Shmuel
        In perek chaf tes posuk chaf hei the posuk says "Vayihi baboker vihinei hi Leah, vayomer el Lavan ma zos asisa li halo b'Rachel avaditi imach v'lamah rimisani" "And it was in the morning and behold it was Leah, so he said to Lavan, what is this you have done to me? Was it not for Rachel that i worked for you? Why have you deceived me?"
 Rashi explains, that Yaakov only realized in the morning that he had married Leah when he believed he was marrying Rachel, because he had given Rachel "simanim" signs with which she was to identify herself. Rachel however realized the embarrassment Leah would have felt when her father sent her in the place of Rachel, and she would fail to give over the simanim correctly, and gave Leah the simanim.
 The Medrash Raba, on the posuk where Rachel names Naftali (lamud, ches) says, that originally when Rachel allowed Leah to marry Yaakov, Rachel said "If I am not deserving of having the world built from me, at least let it be built by my sister".
    The Rosh yeshiva ztl asks, what does Rachel mean she is not deserving?How did she know that she did not deserve to the the "Ima" of the world? She was the woman he had planned on marrying, she was the one he had worked so hard to acquire .She just felt she couldn't go along with his plans because she could not bare to cause such pain to her sister, as is explained in the gemora in Megilla. It would seem that she was the rightful zivug, she was not undeserving or the wrong one, she just felt that the right thing to do was to give it up.
 The Rosh Yeshiva explains that what Chazal are teaching us, and what rachel was saying was that this marriage was obviously not for her. Rachel was saying that if she was truly supposed to marry Yaakov, Hashem would not have put her in a position where the right thing to do was to give up the simanim. She understood, that it was not " I'm the rightful match just something came up", that something coming up wass a raayah, that that is not the way it is supposed to be. That is why she said "If i am undeserving i may as well let my sister be zoche". "She is not stealing this zechus away from me, because it is not rightfully mine" 
 I heard from my Rebbe, Rabbi Kaufman shlita what is a davar pashut but so true, and oftentimes forgotten. If a businessman was about to close the biggest deal of his life, when suddenly a a Navi hashem walked in and told him " Do not make that deal it will be a tremendous mistake" The businessman would probably feel indebted to the Navi forever for saving him from this terrible mistake. However, if this same businessman was about to make the biggest deal of his life, and the fellow offering him this deal says " Ill see you Saturday morning to close the deal, and I don't want to hear any excuses if you're not there you can kiss this deal goodbye". Although the businessman would not go, he would probably hate Shabbos for the rest of his life. We all are guilty of this on one level or another. Shouldn't the businessman realize that Shabbos is Hashem's way of telling him "Don't do the deal", it is the same as the Navi Hashem just in a little disguise. There are times in our lives when we may have grand plans of how things in our life will work out, but how we think they will end up and how they do, are many times completely different. So many times if we just take a moment to realize that the fact that things didn't work out the way we thought they would is because Hashem being the loving father that he is causes things to happen sometimes hold us back from what we think we want in order to do what is truly best for us. This is not to say that one should not feel any pain, as we said recently "when it hurts we cry" and I'm sure Rachel was deeply grieved to be unable to marry Yaakov, yet she understood that not marrying him was the right thing, it was what Hashem wanted. We should be zoche to see the not so obvious yad Hashem in all aspects of our life, but especially when things may seem to be the opposite of what we had hoped for. Good Shabbos            
     

Friday, November 5, 2010

Parshas Toldos

Liyluy Nishmas Elchonon Tzvi ben R' Yisroel Menachem, Zev Yehuda ben R' Shmuel Mordechai, R' Baruch Moshe Aryeh ben R' Zev Yehuda...
 In perek chaf zayin posuk tes vav the posuk says, "Vatikach Rivka es bigdei Esav b'na hagadol hachamudos asher ita ba'bayis vatalbeish es Yaakov b'na hakatan."  "Rivka took her older son Esav's clean garments which were with her in the house and clothed Yaakov her young son."  The Medrash Raba brings down, Reb Shimon ben Gamliel said, "All my life I served and took care of my father, yet i was not "mishameish" him one one-hundredth of the amount that Esav served his father.  When i served my father, I would wear my dirty inexpensive clothing, and when I'd go out I would put on my clean fancy clothes.  Esav, however, would wear his "bigdei malchus" clothing fot for royalty when he was being "mishameish" Yitzchok.  He felt it would not be proper to wear anything less."  The Rosh Yeshiva Ztl asks a seemingly obvious question.  Reb shimon ben Gamliel was praising Esav for serving his father while wearing nice clothes, while he wore his dirty clothes. Why didn't he learn from Esav and just start wearing his nice clothes since he knew that would elevate the level of his Kibud Av?  The Rosh Yeshiva explains that Reb Shimon ben Gamliel realized that although it would raise the level of his Kibud av, he was not holding on the same madreiga as Esav in this inyan.  If Reb Shimon's father would have soiled his fancy clothes while he was serving him, it probably would have bothered him and gotten him a little upset, and he would have lost out on some of the mitzva.  Esav however would have been happy that he was zoche to have his clothes soiled while he was serving his father.  The Rosh Yeshiva explained that we can learn from here how important it is not to jump madreigas and do things that we are not holding by.  Yes, it would be great for Reb Shimon ben Gamliel to wear nicer clothes while serving his father, but he knew he wasn't holding there and trying to squeeze himself into that level would have just be detrimental in the end.  Many times people think "Ok i'm not holding there right now, but ill do it anyway and ill get there eventually" this is usually an incorrect idea.  "Tafasta M'ruba lo tafasta", if u try to grab too much you end up with nothing.  The key is to grow little by little and eventually when you look back at where you are in comparison to where you once were, you will see the tremendous growth you had, because you understood that true growth comes from taking one small step at a time. . . . Good Shabbos.