Parshas Ki Seitzei

Liyluy Nishmas Elchonon Tzvi ben R' Yisroel Menachem..... In perek chaf heh posuk alef it says " Ki Yihiyeh riv bein anashim v'nigshu el hamishpat ushifatum, V'hitzdiku es hatzadik vi'hirshiu es ha'rasha" " When there will be a grievance between two people, and they come to court,and they judge them, and they vindicate the righteous one and find the wicked person to be guilty.." Rashi explains that the posuk is telling us that when people argue (not just a difference of opinion but really argue)their end will be to go to court. No peace comes from arguing, after all that is what cause Lot to seperate from a Tzadik (Avraham). The Gur Aryeh explains the same thing as Rashi.The Torah was teaching us somehing by beinning "Ki yihiyeh riv" instead of "Ki Yigshu anashim lamishpat". Any time people will have an argument, they will be unable to take care of it themselves, rather they will end up bringing each other to
 court. It seems from the Gur Aryeh and Rashi that this posuk is telling us that no matter how great the participants in the argument are, and no matter how important they believe shalom is and how terrible machlokes is, they will not be able to settle their argument regardless of the size or amount of money involved without making a din Torah. The Rosh Yeshivah ztl explained that we see the great power of arguments, of a "riv" and how destructive they are. As long as people are having a difference of opinion in a matter, which happens and is a regular normal part of life, they can work on reaching an outcome together. However, once it turns into a "riv" a grievance, it can not be solved without beis din. The anger on each side will not allow them to reach an outcome, no matter how great they are, no matter how much they want peace. We see how destructive grievances are, and how far they can go to even tear apart families and businesses chas vishalom,
 and therefore how important it is to try to work on ourselves to try to stay away from them..Good Shabbos